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Parenting with Love and Logic

Wednesday, March 14th, 2012

By Alejandra Diaz-

Our program of caring for and guiding children at Dorie’s Promise includes continuing education for staff members who work with them.

Currently we are using material that helps our Special Mothers better understand their responsibilities and how to instill discipline and respect in youngsters.

Designed by a trio of teachers and parents with a combined total of 75 years of experience, the Parenting with Love and Logic curriculum teaches parents to hold children accountable for their actions. This includes establishing consequences for their actions and following through.

Says the Love and Logic Institute: “Many parents want their children to be well prepared for life, and they know this means kids will make mistakes and must be held accountable for those mistakes.

“But these parents often fail to hold the kids accountable for poor decisions because they are afraid the kids will see (them) as being mean. The result is they often excuse bad behavior, finding it easier to hold others—including themselves—accountable for their children’s irresponsibility.”

As an example, when a child leaves his or her bike unlocked, meaning it gets stolen, a parent can express sympathy.

However, holding the child accountable includes letting him know that he can only have another one after saving up the money to pay for it.

This year we are training our Special Mothers by reviewing this material at monthly meetings. Each will read a chapter the week before the meeting. At the session, they will have time share and express different ideas or questions about each lesson.

We believe this is one way we can help our Special Mothers be on the “same page” when it comes to expressing love for the children while also—when necessary—disciplining them in the right way.

Because so many of our children come from abusive homes or other dysfunctional circumstances, it is easy to take pity and never enforce rules with them.

However, this would be going to the other extreme. No matter how badly they have been treated in the past, children still need loving guidance. As Proverbs 22:6 puts it, “Train up a child in the way he should go…”

The Love and Logic philosophy is a way of raising and teaching children so they can grow through their mistakes, take responsibility for their actions, and live with the consequences of their choices.

We like the way it emphasizes respect and dignity for children while allowing those who raise them to grasp simple approaches instead of trying to learn difficult counseling procedures. As any parent knows, raising children is a tough, often thankless task that takes years of effort.

With God’s help, while we are acting as these children’s substitute parents we will do our best to raise them to be happy, responsible, respectful adults.

Waiting on Adoption

Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

By Alejandra Diaz-

We hope that the newest resident of Dorie’s Promise is only here for a short time. That’s because Fredy Jose Cuc Caal is in the middle of an international adoption process. His arrival boosted our number of children to 36.

We think Fredy is about four years old. Although he had been living with a foster family, we aren’t certain why he came to stay with us.

Smart and talkative, Fredy appears to be quite happy here, even though he has had some adjustments to make. While living with a family, he was used to having his own room and receiving more special attention. So his first days at our orphanage weren’t too easy.

Also, going out to school was a part of daily life, so remaining on the grounds for preschool classes is new to him.

Other things have changed. Instead of his own room, Fredy has to share one with five other boys. Most of the time, he stays around the grounds, although he sometimes goes out for short walks or to the park.

Despite the challenges, Fredy has taken to life here fairly well. The big smile he wears is a unique part of his personality.

Fredy also loves to give hugs. Our Special Mothers have taken extra care with him, since they know it is not easy for a toddler to adapt to unfamiliar surroundings. Teacher Claudia Roncal has also been affirming and affectionate.

The Special Mother who watches him most closely describes an active child who loves to eat and play with other kids his age.

Our staff is praying for Fredy, particularly about his future. We do not have much information about his legal situation or the adoption process. However, we pray for him and his adoptive family—that God will comfort them through this trying time.

We also pray for other adoptive families caught in this situation, that they can find the strength and patience they need.

We ask all our supporters to pray for Fredy and other children in similar situations. It has been difficult watching these kids getting older as each year goes by, but there is little we can do to make the wheels of government turn more quickly.

Along with us, please pray also for the authorities in Guatemala who have the power to change this situation and help move these adoption processes along.

No matter what the outcome, we remain grateful that we were able to open our doors to Fredy. We ask God to keep giving us the opportunity to wrap our arms around him and other children who need love and care.

New Child: Freddy Jose

Thursday, March 1st, 2012

FREDDY JOSE CUC CAAL

Freddy is being adopted by an US family. He will be staying at Dorie's Promise until his adoption is complete.

New Teacher at Dorie’s Promise

Wednesday, February 29th, 2012

By Alejandra Diaz-

Two months into Guatemala’s new school year, the children at Dorie’s Promise are excited to be learning under the direction of their new teacher, Claudia Roncal, age 27.

Claudia’s educational background includes certification as a bilingual teacher for elementary grades and studies in psychology, with training in language therapy.

While school didn’t officially start until January, Claudia started working with the children in December.

Although this is her first time teaching in an orphanage, she believes that different work, academic and personal settings prepared her for this position. That included serving as a speech therapist at one of Guatemala’s most prestigious schools and five years working in a social project with children from marginal areas.

“I believe that education is one of the more significant and personal tasks that human can develop,” Claudia says. “It’s the opportunity to accompany children in their process to discover and grow. I think that to create a real educational process, there should be a positive bond as a basis of the teacher-student relationship.”

In the morning, Claudia teaches seven pre-schoolers. In the afternoon she home schools 14-year-old Mirna, as well as supervising homework for older children.

This is the first time for formal instruction for our three and four-year-olds, who learn to adapt to the classroom and how to accomplish different activities.

Among topics they study are colors, numbers and shapes. Claudia has a program set out for the year, divided into different subjects she will emphasize each month.

“Every day I work different areas of the children’s development, especially the skills that are expected for their age,” she says. “The children who live here need the experience to perform in healthy models that show them how to communicate, play, and interact with others.”

I can see how much the youngsters love their classes. Doing different things daily takes them out of their routine. They are learning new rules, how to pay attention to complete various tasks, songs and games.

Claudia’s work represents a huge boost for the staff. We are sure that the children are receiving the quality of learning they need according to their age and personal development.

And, she is the best person to provide older students necessary supervision and help with their homework.

Claudia says the opportunity to work with each child at Dorie’s Promise has shown her how the Lord allows her to imprint memories of love on their lives and become a resource in their development.

“I give infinite thanks to God for this opportunity,” she says. “I have seen that Christ’s words that ‘whoever receives one little child like this in My name receives Me’ (Matthew 18:5) are real. As He allows me to bless the lives of these children, He blesses me abundantly.”

A Real House

Wednesday, February 22nd, 2012

By Alejandra Diaz-

As part of our mission to help Guatemala’s children, Forever Changed recently built a one-room house for a single-parent family that has been living in the ghetto for 16 years.

Three mission teams worked on the home, which took about three months to complete because of a lack of resources.

In addition, some of the teams that helped were small, and not all members were strong enough to work on an outside project.

Although only constructed of tin, wood and nails, Maria Graciela is grateful for it. The 44-year-old mother is raising two teenagers and two grade-school children on her own after her husband abandoned the family five years ago. Maria’s oldest daughter lives on her own.

“She can see the hand of God over her and her family,” says Joel Juarez, our missions coordinator and project director. “At first, when we mentioned helping her, she did not believe it. When we started to work with her, though, she got very excited.”

Joel notes that Guatemalans call a house made of tin and plastic a “cobacha.” Maria says she used to have a cobacha, but she now has a real house.

Volunteers also built a small retaining wall with used cinder blocks, cement, sand, rocks and metal columns. It will help protect the home during the rainy season.

The tin and wood columns on the old house were the same ones that were in place 16 years ago. And, while the new home sounds like a modest dwelling to most Americans, for this family it is heaven-sent.

Since the main goal of Dorie’s Promise is helping children, Joel could see the necessity of helping this family, especially because they have two little children.

“This project fits with us because we want to reach communities and improve their lifestyle,” Joel says. “So with this house we know the kids will feel better and live in better conditions.”

Not only is the family excited, so is the community. Before, they saw an old house that was ugly and dirty. Now, they see a solid structure that will resist the rainy season.

This house has boosted the family’s self-esteem, since they were ashamed of where they lived. Now they are proud and wear smiles on their faces as they express how thankful they are to God and Dorie’s Promise.

“For me this was an amazing experience—just seeing their conditions before and how they live now,” Joel says. “I am very happy for them. I can see the hand of God on this too, because He brought the right people at the right time.

“Once again, I can see that God is always taking care of us. Looking at this family inspires me to keep working and reaching people. It also teaches me how thankful I need to be.”

Report from Dr. Castro

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

By Dr. Francisco Castro-

January marked the start of my sixth year as medical director and pediatrician at Dorie’s Promise. The past month brought non-stop activity and numerous issues to attend to, especially after Christmas vacation.

However, we were able to meet every need because of our committed, capable team, which strives to fulfill children’s needs.

Above all, we place a priority on children’s integral health. This includes day-to-day, individual attention for children, personnel and sometimes visitors. Whether a doctor, Special Mother or administrative personnel, everyone watches for the “little things” that can become major concerns.

By doing this we are able to promote children’s biological and physiological health, healthy social interaction, and supportive spirituality.

Naturally, we treat acute illnesses—mostly minor injuries—and respiratory, gastrointestinal, and skin problems. However, we are aware that children at our home also suffer from chronic conditions, usually identified when they arrive. Most are curable, but some problems remain and will “mark” a child forever. This is the case with children who have cerebral palsy or a congenital syndrome.

The most common disorder is malnutrition, which affects a child’s stature, brain development, and sometimes his or her mental health. Of course, there is always hope. We often see the miracle called resilience. This is a phenomenon where—despite a miserable past, neglect and abuse—a child emerges to become a wonderful, affectionate human being.

Our health system has also evolved to provide useful norms and procedures that enable us to avoid nasty, infectious-disease outbreaks, a common problem in the past. However, this remains a threat in an institution where many children and adults live together.

As with any system, everything is prone to failures, as well improvements and innovations. This is precisely the challenge I see in front of us.

Our children still need improved developmental and learning opportunities, more daily physical activities, healthier diets, more effective dental procedures, and a healthy, stimulating environment.

Guatemala has slowed adoptions in recent years, which presents another challenge. While we still accept babies, other children are growing fast and will stay longer with us. So, another adjustment we must make is caring for older children, including adolescents.

This requires us to do more research on children’s adoptability and find more resources to deal with enormous social, economic and cultural situations, and work to prevent poverty and resolve other social issues.

We must also act as advocates and work to provide the best care possible if we want to see healthier children—and future productive citizens.

This means we must not only provide care at our home, but seek to help communities through comprehensive outreach programs. I believe this will be possible with solidarity, loving care and commitment from those of us who have the privileges of a wealthier life, education and Christian values.

Mission Trip Video

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

By George Park-

I'm back in the U.S.  I'm so thankful for what the Lord has been doing for the people of Guatemala through me.  God's timing is perfect. Heres a video clip of my trip.

 

Life-transforming Trip

Wednesday, February 8th, 2012

By Alejandra Diaz-

A mission trip to Dorie’s Promise can be life-transforming. Just ask Linda Taylor, a homemaker from a farming community in Canada, who visited in December with her youngest son, Stephen.

It was the first mission trip ever taken by the member of Grace Baptist Church in Sunderland, Ontario.

Linda and her son joined six other people from the U.S. They helped lay sod in the backyard, spent time with the children and helped children in the ghetto. Linda also taught girls at a state-run orphanage to make a Christmas poster using finger paints.

“The trip has helped me to see how unimportant accumulation of material possession is,” Linda says. “Being on the mission trip has increased my desire to preach the gospel.”

Building relationships with the children here warmed her heart. She says the kids and Special Mothers were so open and loving that she found it easy to fit and help in various capacities.

Her first day, little ones were already calling her “Mommy.” Linda was particularly touched by her interaction that week with Alex, who requires a wheelchair.

“He had such a beautiful smile and his eyes would light up as I talked and sang to him,” Linda says. “One day, Lester, a three-year-old boy, took my hand and directed me to him. Lester put his hand on Alex and rubbed his tummy, which made Alex laugh. That was such a loving thing for a little boy to do.”

Another highlight came during their trip to the ghetto. After sharing their lunch with a family living there, they walked along a path, handing out candies and supplies to children.

Suddenly, Linda lost her footing and fell. Immediately, two members and children from the ghetto surrounded her.

As she looked up, a young boy with concern on his face extended his hand, offering the Tootsie Roll she had just given him.

“Knowing how much a candy means to a child like this, I was deeply moved by his expression of love,” Linda says. “It reminded me of the verse that ends, ‘And a little child shall lead them.’”

Best of all, Linda knows she was in God’s will every day they were in Guatemala. Reflecting on her experience, she says her trip helped her to put others’ needs first and taught her the importance of prayer.

“When we visited the ghetto and prayed with four different families, the presence of the Lord was so near,” Linda recalls. “I am so thankful for this mission trip.”

Our goal for participants this year is 300. Nearly 260 have signed up thus far. If you would like to help reach that goal and have the same kind of experience Linda did, e-mail us today.

Brothers Benefit

Wednesday, February 1st, 2012

By Alejandra Diaz-

Last week Heather Radu wrote about the significance people can make in a child’s life by taking a mission trip to help the kids at Dorie’s Promise and others in the community.

In addition, those who want to make a difference on a continuing basis throughout the year can help sponsor one of our residents.

While supporters typically send $35 a month, a child’s full support requires more.

Two children in need of additional sponsors are Jonathan Mejia, age 9, and his brother, Gerson, who is 4.

Jonathan has lived here for more than two years. After suffering physical abuse, a social worker asked a minor’s court judge to send him to an orphanage while authorities investigated his home situation.

Six months later, the judge determined that Gerson was also at risk and asked Dorie’s Promise to accept him so he could be reunited with Jonathan.

Working with Jonathan has posed a challenge because of improper discipline, limited education, and the way his parents used him to resolve difficulties.

However, through therapy and special care, we have seen major changes in his behavior. During his first year, Jonathan received psychological therapy at the Pediatric Foundation. In 2011 we secured a special therapist who has worked with him on a weekly basis.

In addition, after progressing in his studies, Jonathan is in third grade—a bit behind normal, but he is catching up. He smiles more often after receiving gifts from sponsors and mission teams, a delight he had never known.

Gerson just started preschool and is doing well. He has also received the special medical and dental care that he needed.

These achievements have come at what sometimes seems like a snail’s pace. Yet today we see two normal little boys maturing.

Jonathan loves playing soccer, running, and watching TV. Gerson loves playing with other little children his age.

When people become sponsors, they bring new light and smiles to the faces of children like Jonathan and Gerson. However, it is not just the monetary support that matters.

When the kids at Dorie’s Promise receive gifts and personal notes from sponsors, nothing can compare to watching the joy on their faces.

When sponsoring a child, you also commit to pray for this boy or girl. Working with them as I do, I am certain that because of prayer Jonathan and Gerson are able to open their hearts to receive and give love.

They have also learned that there are other ways to solve problems than resorting to violence.

You may think of such steps as small or insignificant compared to the rest of the world. But in these brothers’ world, they are huge.

The Search for Significance

Wednesday, January 25th, 2012

By Heather Radu-

“The Search for Significance.” Besides the title of a best-selling book, I believe within every human heart lies an innate desire to achieve significance.

When it comes to reaching that goal, I believe there is no better way than taking a mission trip to Dorie’s Promise.

“God has placed the nation of Guatemala in our hearts,” says Heather Barnes, whose first trip inspired her and her husband to adopt a son from our orphanage. “Now we know we know it was more than just adopting our son. It was about our lives being forever changed by the people of Guatemala.”

With many churches and other groups now planning for summer trips, it is a good time to consider coming. We have designed trips to allow team members to build relationships with children here and in surrounding communities.

Children are always excited to meet visitors. To facilitate one-on-one bonds, we pair each of them with a mission team member—a match we hope will lead them to becoming friends forever.

In the community, you will meet some of the most impoverished people anywhere. They live on, or near, garbage dumps and fashion homes from cardboard and tin. The many people we serve eagerly await the teams that bring Christ’s love and provide basic necessities. Items that seem ordinary to many Americans, like soap and a pair of shoes, can brighten the eyes of a five-year-old boy more than you can imagine.

Don’t take my word for it, though. In addition to Heather Barnes, listen to others whose lives have been changed by the significant work going on here.

Alexandra Graziano says her time at Dorie’s Promise taught her and other members of her team about the importance of reaching out.

“Seeing how deeply the Special Mothers loved the children was beautiful,” Alexandra says. “To be a part of that ministry was an unforgettable experience. It challenged each of us to step outside our comfort zone and embrace this new world.”

Carolyn Emmert, who lives in a small Kentucky town, came twice in 2009—the second time bringing her nine-year-old granddaughter.

“Every time I go to Dorie’s Promise I come home happy about the wonderful work that happens there every day,” Carolyn says. “I feel incredibly blessed to have been there and experienced the loving people there.”

Henry Bond says his week here gave him the opportunity to yield his self-centered lifestyle.

“I don’t think I would be the same person I am today had I not taken a risk and traveled to Guatemala in order to volunteer at Dorie’s Promise,” he says.

Want to join Henry in satisfying that inner search for meaning in life? More information is available on the “missions” tab, or you can contact me via email.